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School Choice Tips
Shopping With Your Tween or Teen
Back-to-school shopping with your tween or teen can be fun and educational if you start with a plan.
The secret to successful back-to-school shopping is planning. Before you grab your checkbook and jump into the car, set aside some time to:
Take inventory. Start by weeding out all the clothes that are too small, worn-out or simply not appreciated any longer. Toss the ones that have outlived their usefulness and donate the rest to charity. Now you have an uncluttered view of the gaps in your child's wardrobe.
Make a list. You must have a plan of attack. With a list in hand you can group your shopping needs by type of store and accomplish your tasks more efficiently. You'll also be less likely to buy items that you don't need or won't use.
Establish a budget. This will give your teen a clear understanding of what you can buy (and hopefully forestall any pleading and whining). With financial ground rules in place, you'll be able to teach money-management skills and how to "shop smart." If there's an expensive item that she simply must have, arrange for her to pay for the extra expense from her allowance or with her own earnings.
Check the sales and special promotions. In addition to storewide sales, you can save money in many states by shopping on state-declared "tax-free" days, when state sales taxes are lifted during back-to-school season.
Find out about your school's dress code. Most schools have dress codes to discourage clothes that are too skimpy or sexual, or that suggest gang membership. Girls might need to avoid spaghetti straps, tank tops and low-cut jeans. Boys should know whether "sagging" trousers and certain colors or brand names associated with gangs are forbidden.
Remember that you don't have to do it all before school starts. Spreading your shopping out over the first few weeks of the school year is smart. It gives your student time to check out what his peers are wearing and to make any necessary wardrobe adjustments during later shopping trips. And it gives you the opportunity to take advantage of the sales.
Be aware of marketing strategies aimed at kids. Teens, and most recently "tweens" (children ages 9 to 12), represent a lucrative market for retailers and advertisers. They've become the target of a steadily increasing barrage of messages telling them what clothes and what looks are cool. As a parent, don't remove yourself from the equation. Talk to your child about how the media influences what we want and think we need.
Updated June 2008

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08/28/2008:
"I cannot find appropriate everyday or Sunday shoes for my 13-year old daughter, who wears a size 6. We always used to shop at Stride Rite. Any suggestions?"
08/28/2008:
"Im going into 7th grade and i go to a private school with a uniform. I really think a uniform is great because you don't have to worry about what other people think of you. A lot of other kids are saying 'you can;t express your style with a uniform.' Oh yes you can! Examples: Colorful tights Colorful headbands Earrings Bracelets Nail Polish Leggings Shoes Ect. I love having a uniform and wearing navy socks under my kacki skirt, and wearing a lime green shirt under my polo. Hoped i helped a bit!"
08/8/2008:
"Being a mother of an eleven year old at the age of 48 :), Your newletter keeps me in the here and now! I so appreciate this. Just want to say Thank You!"
08/8/2008:
"Right on target! I call this time of year the time we 'go shopping in our closet'. We stress thinking of charity and helping out others who may not have much. The places like Operation Schoolbell and thriftshops that specialize in 'name brands' and consignment shopping makes school shopping easy and a bit retro. I also make sure I try to play Bargain Betty with my daughters to see who can get to the back of the store and find the best deals. With a 9 and a 10 year old, they are learning early how they can support healthy retail therapy - while helping with the budget!!! I mix name brands with generics all the time and we use the magazines to look at the trends and find what clothes we should focus on as we make our lists and then find the 'no-name' brands. "
08/7/2008:
"Great article, very helpful...........:)"
08/7/2008:
"OK well you should mention a couple of 'cool' brands that all the kids are wearing now days ... wich are following: .Abercrombie .Hollister .Limted too .Bobby jack .Brank paul .Old navy TRENDS!!! .Skinny jeans .Layerd cami(spaghetti strap) .Light eye liner .Skater style .Knee high Converse .Any sort of skate shoes (or converse) "
08/6/2008:
"My son has always gone to a private school that stresses individuality so what he wears has never been an issue. He is going into 8th grade and through our church youth group often hangs out with some high school kids but no one thinks twice about the things he does to express his individuality (multiple watches, bracelets, rings, long hair) and he is very comfortable with himself. People think it's cool that he is so much 'himself'. He will probably go to a Catholic High School which of course has uniforms, but he is very accepting of that because he has never really thought he had to wear certain clothes to 'fit in' and he has said he can still wear what he wants when he comes home."
08/5/2008:
"My daughter can never pick out clothes with out making it her way! With these tips I took her shopping and no fight and she even asked me if I could help her pick out some things!!!!! Thanks soooo much!!"
07/29/2008:
"Ok first of all kids have a say in what they wear because it lets them express themselves and you dont need to buy your kids clothes without them being there because if you do and they dont like it you'll end up having a bigger headache than if you did bring them kids just want to be able to wear what they want but of course it can't say anything bad or cost over the budget"
07/29/2008:
"if you want to do back to school shopping, do it at 'Burlington Coat Factory'. i promise, they don't just sell men's coats. It's when fancy stores have to many clothes, so they give them to Burlington. I am incredibly scrawny, so i have a hard time finding jeans, but I found two pair for 15 dollars each in 30 seconds! its amazing! also, to solve the problem of strapless or spegetti straps, get a little short sleeved jacket thing to put over it. You can wear that and your favorite shirts all year, and what are they gonna say? If your into miniskirts and stuff, just get a couple pairs of simple black leggings.Tip: just make them come down to your knees, its annoying when they're at your ankles. P.S. I am the most popular girl in my school, so i know what I'm talking about. I don't dress skimpy though."
07/10/2008:
"I think these tips are great! And my mom actually already uses most of them! I'm going into middle school this upcoming school year. I'm very excited but I'm not quite sure what kinds of clothes I'll want to buy. Whether people admit it or not, everyone sees what the other kids are wearing and are influenced by it. I am that same way. Some things will be 'in' this year and others will not. I think buying clothes over the first few weeks of the school year is a fantastic idea because if other kids like me aren't exactly sh=ure what they'll want to buy, they can figure it out during that time! My mom, sister, and I actually some of our shopping before the school year starts, soon after the school year starts, and throughout the school year. We love to shop, though our mom does put a limit on our spendings, so we find cute clothes all throughout the year. I, for one, don't grow very fast, so I can fit most of my clothes year after year. Of course I buy more just for fashion pur! poses, but I think I proably shouldn't. I think I'm being influenced just a little too much by other students and that's why I'm always looking to 'upgrade' my wardrobe. I think having your own personal style is fun, exciting, and a great way to express yourself. I do have my own style, btu it's also a mix of my peers styles too. I think the tips on this site and other peoples' reviews have really made me think differently about these things! I'm beggining to really like the thought of my OWN styles and cute clothes now. =]"
05/1/2008:
"im an 8th grader and i think that you can look cool and not have to shop at very expensive stores. (by the way hollisters jeans are only 40 dollars... not 75 or w/e like every one else says). anyways, i dont want to sound concieted but i'm pretty 'popular' at my school. You don't haev to have all the expensite stuff to be that way. I shop every where from forever 21 to DSW, but almost every thing i get is on sale. I just wear my hair in a really cute way or have jewlery that grabs attention. Basically though, i think it should be your personality that says the most about you...not your clothes."
02/25/2008:
"i would absolutly love if my school required uniforms. the only way to look cool in my school is to wear hollister and a&f, but i just can't justify spending $75 on jeans when genocide is occuring in darfur, children are starving on the streets, etc. with uniforms, you buy all the clothes you need for the year. then, unless you have a growth spurt, you don't need any more school clothes all year. plus-plaid skirts are so cute. haha."
02/25/2008:
"I think uniforms are horrible and don't let your express your self. Sure it is easier, but SOOO boring! If my school ahd unioforms I would be alright except only if we had one free day a week wehn we could wear what ever we wanted, well something reasonable, nothing gand, drug, sex realted of couarse!"
02/14/2008:
"These are great tips, and I own a boutique for tweens (girls and boys)! Parents seem to shop without their kids the first time they come into my store, but after they see that our clothes are stylish, high quality, and not wacked out inappropriate, they bring their kids with them the next time. www.juvieshop.com"
01/22/2008:
"I am a freshman at a private all-girls Catholic academy. I have been in Catholic education since preeschool. In nursery school, PreK and kindergarten we wore whatever we wanted. Since first grade, I have worn a uniform. Some people may think that it costs so much extra money and it limits self expression, but I think differently. This year I have many choices for my uniform. It is so easy to wake up and throw my uniform on than to ponder what I should wear. Plus, if you wear a uniform, you don't have to keep running to the stores and buying the newest trendy clothing item that probably costs over $100. If you really think about it, wearing a uniform saves time and money."
10/9/2007:
"I'm at La Salle Academy and of course I wear a uniform. It doesn't bother me at all but that's probably because I've been wearing one for 9 years. Once you gt use to it, it's so easy trust me it doesn't even matter. You can always tell that the snotty girls are the ones with their skirts 5 inches above the knee. I'm definitely a nerd, so mine's about an inch past. I think it's so easy just to throw it one everyday and you're done!"
09/6/2007:
"I am 13, going into grade 8 and parents, as the tip says above, dont do all the shopping beforehand. The worst thing for a teen is ending up on the first day or week wearing the same clothes as someone else. I usually wear the clothes i wore last year in the first week, for sure i wont end up with the same clothes, and it looks like i didn't try to plan out new clothes to wear. (which is totally uncool by the way)"
09/5/2007:
"I like to take my mother with me when I go shopping. I am a soph. in college, but when I was in grade school she would give me a budget and I could do what I pleased with it. If I chose to spend it all on a pair of shoes then that was my loss. Once I got a job I started buying my own clothing. As I matured I also realized that there are much more important things to worry about. I think parents should be more concerned about the other things their children are doing (drugs, alc., unprotected sex, etc..) not if their peers are going to make fun of their clothes."
09/5/2007:
"Thankfully, the DIY trend is becoming very popular at my school, and a lot of kids are 'going green'. Meaning, we customize our old clothes and thrift store treasures. I agree, uniforms would take a lot of pressure off from us to dress 'popular'. A lot of kids will complain, but they will be secretly glad to have uniforms (or a strict dress code), if it means everyone has freedom from looking 'cool'."
09/5/2007:
"I've been out of High School for a year now, and I can honestly say that I wish we had had uniforms growing up because yes, there are so wild expectations from your childrens peers and their teachers. It sounds strange but if you put two children in a room, one in a polo shirt and the other in a metallica shirt, the teacher will have pre-conceived notions that the one in the metallica shirt will fail, and won't get as much attention. Not too mention, depending on what they wear depends on the group they fit.We had soo many issues with our dress code through my high school career, it was changed so many times and after a while most of the kids were confused between one year and the next, so more kids were in detention for confusion rather than things they should have been in there for. I hope when I have kids, and they start school, they have uniforms..Not to keep them from being individuals, but just so their school careers can be focased on the task at hand and no what Joe ! Blow is wearing that day."
09/5/2007:
"I'm going into 5th grade and we have a dress code like you can't wear sandals and no spagetti straps but nobody listens !"
09/5/2007:
"I really dont think that schools should have as much say in what students wear as they do. im a freshman and a friend of mine was wearing a shirt with a squirrel on it saying 'rub my nuts for good luck' and it was ruled as inappropriate for school. Another friend of mine has a shirt and her shirt says Derty Hoes garden club (its a real place) and its 'inappropriate for school. it distracts from learning.' I mean i can see if ur child is wearing a banana suit to school yeah i could see it was distracting but a shirt. that is for a real place. or something thats not even bad just a little joke school takes things too far on their judgement of whats appropriate and not. this just frustrates me on schools doing things like that."
08/27/2007:
"I am starting my senior year in high school. Let me tell you, there are some times scream didn't accomplish my goals on clothes. Parents are hard at understanding the difference between their school days and our school days. The technology, media and other influences tell teens whats the ticket to popularity. My insight on popularity is boredom and stupidity. Those males and females that fit the term popular, spend all of their money of the 'cutest purse' wether the price is $50 or $250. Don't get me wrong, clothes matter. if you believe they don't watch the teachers and peers stare and snicker. but the point of this is, don't let the clothes determine if you are included in the 'in crowd' i was there once. totally dumb and waste of time. PS- i think uniforms would be good for my school. i don't know the circumstances of other schools, but my school is plagued with violence and gangs. Putting uniforms over the gang symbols and getting rid of the pressure that goes along with appearence would help raise the value of true beauty and lessen the lable race that has take over teens."
08/27/2007:
"FYI: We don't have middle school where I live. Okay, so in Elementary School, there was alot of pressure to 'fit in' AKA 'BLEND in'. I was really scared to wear clothes that I thought were nice because I thought I would be shunned for wearing what I liked. Everybody thought I was fat and ugly. My last few years of elementary were miserable, with cruel people, so I decided that for high school, I would transfer somewhere where I didn't know anybody and I could make a fresh start. I figured that away from the main people that made me feel opressed, I could be free to be whatever I wanted and wear the clothes that I thought were pretty, not what some Paris Hilton/Lindsay Lohan Wannabe thought was 'hot'. So my best friend (who was my only real friend at that school) decided to transfer with me. Thing is, she was really popular in elementary. In the fall, we started high school, and in one week I made more friends and better friends than I had ever had in all 8 years of elementar! y school. The funny thing is, the other girl still acted like she was the top of the heap, so no one liked her, because she acted like she was still popular and she would say bad things about people behind their backs, so people hated her. We didn't really hang out as much, although we were still great friends. Also, since I had experienced so much evil girl (and boy!) stuff, when some of my friends started a rumor about another friend of mine, I stuck up for her and told them that they shouldn't do that and that I didn't want any part of their lying. As a result, those girls think I'm really cool and admire me, the other girl considers me one of her best friends, and the rest of the people at school think I'm a really good person, and really loyal. (And lots of boys like me!) So really, people, BE YOURSELF! THAT'S THE BEST WAY TO BE COOL!"
08/22/2007:
"I am a 13 year old girl going into 8th grade. I think that everybody is too caught up about getting expesesive clothes. I'm in all honers and for some reasen all the kids in honers are really rich and only wear abrecrombie, aeropostle, and holister, and the like. But why pay 90 dollers for a pair of jeans when you can get up to four pairs of jeans the same quality somewhere else. I want to popular and cool and like those stores but its just so expesenive. Students should care about what they like and try to find it cheaper."
08/22/2007:
"Hi I am a 7th grader and i go to a private school that wears uniforms and I have never wished we didn't have them. Not only is it easier to get ready you don't have to worry how people will like your clothes or if you hav anything to wear. You feel like we are all the same. One might say you can't express your self but, you can. You can do stuff with your hair and wear jewelry. It does not take the personalty away from anyone. I mean you can still tell who is the funny one, the cool ones, and the smarties. Why teach people to be materialistic. Another plus is that is way less expensive than not wearing clothes. All I get every year is 2 new skirts and like 5 polos and a 2 sweatshirts. We also can still wear regular clothes If we have no uniform passes. We can earn them buy being a good student and getting good test scores. I love wearing a uniform and I would never ask to change it"
08/19/2007:
"I am going into 5th grade this year and that article is somewhat right...i have a budget each year on school clothes.I always go though my older clothes and see what i need!! At my school we have no sort of dress code except closed in shoes and no tank tops.The shirts have to be 2 finger sleeves. I think we should be able to wear whatever we want because all uniforms are doing is making us feel like we cant have our own style..i would rather not have uniforms!! And my school doesnt!! But if it did i would be soooo MAD!!!"
08/9/2007:
"I'm going into eighth grade this year, and we have a strict dress code (collared shirts, no jeans). It really stinks sometimes, but I like it because its fine for the teachers, but I can still get my clothes at my favorite stores, like A&F and Hollister. It's cool. Just let me wear my brands and styles, and im fine."
08/7/2007:
"one last tip... leaving youir child at home saves youu alot of headaches."
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